Engage your heart and mind by making positive choices.

Engage your heart and mind by making positive choices.

I am turning 37 next month, and have been reflecting on life and where it has taken me.  I’m not married, have no kids, and am working my a$$ off in corporate Canada.

I am not spending enough energy on the things that engage my heart & mind.

I neglect my dog and don’t spend enough time traveling, spending time with friends, family, and my dog, volunteering, golfing, and laughing.  (Alright, if you know me, you know I laugh a lot, but more doesn’t hurt!)  I find I don’t have time to do things that are good for me, like working out, cooking, and eating right.

My sister and I on our trip to Dublin

Am I where I thought I’d be at this point in my life?  Absolutely not!  Am I unhappy with where I am?

Absolutely not.

Sure, there are times when I think “Gee, it would be awesome to be (Cameron Diaz / Duchess Kate / my friend Lesley)” But then something happens (JT dumps her / paparazzi chase her / her job sucks) and I realize actually she is just a person who has ups and downs like I do.

I can’t think of anyone with a “perfect” life, and I’m generally pretty happy.  I love my job, my house, my dog, my family, and I have a great boyfriend.

Life hasn’t taken me here.

I’ve made choices throughout my life that have gotten me to where I am.

The things that I’m missing are things that I can change.  I can make different choices in order to focus on engaging my heart and mind.

Piper during a cottage vacation

My plan for 37:

  • Come home from work earlier, at least 3 days per week. (baby steps)
  • Laugh even more.
  • Make more time for family, good friends, and Piper.
  • Take a trip to Europe.
  • Find a new volunteer gig.
  • Join a new gym, and use it!

What choices are you making to engage your heart and mind and create a better life for yourself?


  1. June 17, 2011 at 1:00 am

    Not sure how I got, but I did!, you blog site that is. Turned 38 and had the same thoughts. If you like to read I recommend Linchedpin, poke the box by Seth Godin or Unlimited power by Tony Robins. They gave me what I needed to hear from someone else. The things you think you are missing is not the key. the key is that you see what you have as a step to something you haven't defined yet. And as such, you will never reach it. What if, what you have IS the thing you want and that is why you are where you are. If you really wanted something else or you lacked the will to drive your own life you would have had a different life. Best of luck and have a great remaining of 37 and many more years! BTW, I wrote reviews on all three books in case you just want to read one of them. /Shahram

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  2. June 17, 2011 at 6:50 am

    Hi Shahram - thanks so much for the comment and the book referral - I'll definitely check them out! This year has really been one of personal reflection for me and I think I've spent so much time striving for...??? You're right - maybe where I am is where I should be. Pam

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  3. Lesley
    January 5, 2012 at 9:57 am

    You are now halfway through 37. Wanna meet for coffee and discuss the status of your plan?!

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  5. July 13, 2014 at 1:15 pm

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